Anger

When somebody does something bad to you, why let anger get the best of you? What it does is aggravate your soul more than anything, and anger leads to resentment, and all these negative feelings build up inside of you, which can later on affect your health and your energies, if it happens too often. 

If something occur that would usually infuriate you, try as best as you can to breathe and say "I reject this feeling!". I know it might be hard, but it's worth the try. I used to be irritated very easily by what people would say or do to me. After a while I realized that:

1- Some people are really just playing and do not mean what they say (I did that too so now I understand it)

2- Being angry won't change anything if the situation is irreversible and it will only affect my health, mostly if I'm always angry

3- I've become too positive to let anger get a hold of me for too long :)

Why get mad at something that already happened and that cannot be undone? After your anger dissipates, the situation will still remain the same. I understand that anger is an unavoidable feeling, and you can get carried away by anger easily, and it's ok, nobody is perfect and that's not what I'm asking you to become. But the second you start to scream and shout, try to close your mouth and breathe for a moment. And think to yourself that what you're feeling at the very moment will do nothing better than affect your health and surround you with negative energy, leading you to have negative thoughts towards the person who hurt you. And sometimes it might even make you do/say things that you will later on regret. And I don't think you wanna go there and feel guilty and beg for forgiveness that you will probably not receive in some cases, depending on the character the person you hurt back has. Instead of getting angry, just breathe and if you need to be by yourself for a moment, take that moment to relax. Take a shower, go breathe some air on the balcony, meditate, sing, write, whatever makes you relax, and when you're calmed down, go back to the person or call that person back and let them know firmly that you did not appreciate what they did or said to you and that they hurt you or irritated you. But be honest about how the person made you feel so that they understand clearly.

And beware of provocation!!!! Some people who I guess are not fully mature yet will probably want to provoke you by saying/doing things just for the fun of seeing you angry! You have to learn to detect that. Because we're all humans, we all have a brain that receives information and processes it. So when you tell someone that you don't appreciate when they say/do a certain thing to you, it might not be what they want to hear, but rest assured that their brain processed the information and that they are now fully aware that you do not appreciate this. So do not let them win you over by reacting angrily to what they say or do, instead, let them say/do it anyways, even if you've repeated many times that you do not like this, and sooner or later they will realize how ridiculous they are and stop acting stupid. And by you not reacting, it also shows maturity, which the person will take example on. If you get angry again, you let them win and they will never stop, as they will now know one of your weaknesses. So lead by showing the right example! It will most likely make them grow up!

Don't get me wrong, anger is not something that will never affect me. I do get VERY angry. It is extremely rare but it can happen. The thing is it depends on the gravity of the situation. I learned how NOT to let unnecessary matters affect me. If it can't be undone, I won't get angry, but I will let the person know that I didn't appreciate what they did to me. However....if it's something extremely bad, I WILL get angry, but before saying or doing anything I might regret, I take time to myself to get rid of my anger and calm myself down, and when I'm ready to talk in all decency, I address the issue to the person. And let me tell you that I am more positive ever since I changed that. :)

So break the chains of unnecessary anger that surrounds you with negative energy and start living better with a positive attitude by learning to control your anger and all the bad emotions/thinking that come with it!!!